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Saturday Night

I have been driving people around for a while now.  It’s not an uncommon situation:  When someone asks me what I’m doing at night/on the weekends, I’m driving to make money.  June saw me with no car and no extra cash for things.  Needless to say, things were, and are still, a little tight.

That’s why I found myself driving around trying to get to my monetary goal on Saturday night.

My last ride of the night was a young man in relative terms.  I don’t often work the drunk crowd; it’s my scene and I’d rather be the person drinking, not the DD.  Anyways, this guy is slightly wobbly and I’m like this is going to be a really irritating ride.  I picked the young man up; he was headed to the opposite of the Harbor.  His first comment was, “Take whatever route gets us there.”

In the following 20 some minutes, I found out a lot about my passenger.  Former Marine and he was dealing with a heartache.  His girlfriend of several years had a skewd view of a relationship.  We both agreed that a relationship is about spending time with each other.  On top of that, he had started setting up roots for their future.  He had moved to the area, bought a house, and had a decent job…He wanted the works everyone over 30 is supposed to want.  After serving his country and doing several tours, he deserved that.

What pissed me off was here was someone who had fought for our country who deserved to have his dreams come true.  Four years and newly single when all he wanted was to be happy with the person he saw his future with.  We kept talking about how nice it would be to have someone to come home to after a long day who loved you.  Her argument was that he seemed like he wanted Little Suzy Homemaker.  After talking to him, I didn’t get that impression at all.  Of course this was only over 20 minutes of talking to this guy while he was slightly intoxicated.

As an Uber Driver, what gets talked about in the car is supposed to die there, unless it’ an argument with the top dog of the company.  However, this guy’s story stuck with me all weekend.  I wanted to say something prolific about how we treat veterans like crap.  I have seen so many homeless vets and vets like my dad who hasn’t had anything good happen in couple years.  Maybe it’s my guilt of not being there for my dad right now, or when he needed me a few years ago.  I haven’t gotten past what I didn’t do when it would have been so easy to just help, and now it’s way too late to do anything about it.  Whatever it is, this young man’s story had me wanting to end my shift and grab drink just to continue the conversation.  I don’t get many passengers like that.

If you have military personnel in your life or know any military personnel, please say “Thank you” and hug them.  Start a conversation with them and see how they are truly doing AND LISTEN TO THEM.  Take them out for a nice day out and remind them the positives of what they have/are fighting for.  Help with what you can, even if it’s babysitting so they can have some time with their partners.  Most importantly, love them.

 

Listening to:  “Lydia” by Highly Suspect

Reading:  “Uprooted” by Naomi Novik

Quote of the Day:  “Individual commitment to a group effort – that is what makes a team work, a company work, a society work, a civilization work.” ― Vince Lombardi

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Summer Bucket Lists

I’ve had the song “Mad World” in my head for the last few days.  The last couple days have been a whirlwind of activities for just about everything.  It’s scary how things change and the things that set certain situations into motion.

I’ve been neglecting my blog, my workout routines, and just having a very blah attitude for the last six weeks.  It’s hard getting back into the groove of things after being in a down swing but here’s to trying.

Graduations are happening this week and next.  What better time to bring up summer bucket lists?

Ideas for Solo Travelers:

  • Explore your city as a Tourist.
  • Take a random road trip alone.
  • Get your passport.
  • Go camping and unplug.
  • Hike a mountain.
  • Go geocaching in your hometown.
  • Treat yourself to a spa day.
  • Go to a music festival and connect with people.
  • Skip rocks on a lake.
  • Try a fitness class at your local gym.

Ideas for Couples:

  • Explore your city as a tourist.
  • Start driving, using a coin to pick the directions.
  • Get your passports.
  • Go camping.
  • Hike a mountain.
  • Go geocaching in your hometown.
  • Try a fitness class at your local gym.
  • Explore your local farmer’s market.
  • Host a dinner party.
  • Plant a garden together.

Ideas for Families:

  • Explore your city as a Tourist.
  • Go camping and unplug.
  • Go geocaching in your hometown.
  • Skip rocks on a lake.
  • Take a family road trip.
  • Have standing Family Game nights.
  • Watch your local fireworks show together.
  • Go to a drive-in movie.
  • Clean out closets and host a yard sale.
  • Have a water balloon fight.

Ideas for Graduates:

  • Take a road trip with your best friend.
  • Go to the beach/senior week.
  • Watch your local fireworks show.
  • Go to a drive-in movie with friends.
  • Clean out closets and host a yard sale.
  • Have a water balloon fight before people leave for college.
  • Pick one thing you’ve never done/couldn’t do, and go do it.
  • Take a camping trip.
  • Do a solo road trip.
  • Read a book I’ve never read before.

Most of these I got off of Pinterest.  If you want more ideas, Pinterest and Google can provide great ideas or even starting points.  For road trip ideas, Pinterest and the Day Zero Project have things to do in each state.  Check it out and have a great summer!

Listening to:  people talking.

Reading:  The Killing Dance by Laurell K. Hamilton

Quote of the Day:  “Life is not easy for any of us. But what of that? We must have perseverance and above all confidence in ourselves. We must believe that we are gifted for something and that this thing must be attained.” ― Marie Curie

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Question Day

Happy Post Easter Monday.

Today, I’m not sure what to write about.  I could write about the fact that I’m finally under 300 lbs (@ 297.6) for the first time since I was 16.  I could write about how my half marathon training is going and that I finally reached 300 miles for the year so far with 1717 to go before December 31 at 23:59.  But I’m not sure I want to write about those other than to say that I’ve reached those milestones like I just did.

Since I don’t have much to write about today, I think I’ll make it a question day:

#50: What’s the most valuable thing you own?

Materially, my computer and my flash drive hands down.  I can take losing almost everything else, but losing those two things would cause massive panic attacks.

Non-materially, there are two things that I value a lot:

Number one is the family I married into.  I don’t know where I would be without Ray and our kids, and her family.  Even with us going through our ups and downs right now with both of us having had weight-loss surgery, she’s part of the reason I’m doing really well right now.  She and our kids are the reasons I’m doing a lot of what I’m doing with the weight-loss, the walking, and the driving… because at the end of the day, I couldn’t see my life without them there.  I know that’s very sentimental but they are the best things in my life.

Number two is my friends.  Sure they drive me nuts sometimes.  Sometimes, they walk out of my life and I don’t know if they’re coming back or even if I want them back, and sometimes they carry more baggage than I do, but they’re my friends.  Most of them have graduated to being family and those that haven’t know why.  Either way, those are relationships I value. Do I own my friends? No, but I value them though.

 

What are some things that you value in your life right now?  Have you told them lately how you feel?

Enjoy your Monday!

Listening to:  Ed Sheeran’s Station on Amazon

Reading:  The Source by J.D. Horn

Quote of the Day:  “Whether one believes in a religion or not, and whether one believes in rebirth or not, there isn’t anyone who doesn’t appreciate kindness and compassion.” ― Dalai Lama

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