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I haven’t done a question day in a while.  With everything else going on, but not much too really talk about yet, I figured it would be a good idea since there are still 90 more to go.

Thanks to Google’s Random number generator, today’s number is “49”.

Question #49:  When you think of “home,” what, specifically, do you think of?

This question is pretty appropriate because we are looking for a house to settle into.  We’ve been living in an apartment for the last couple years.  I’ll spare you the rant about home buying and the American dream.

I’ve never been a white picket fence type of person.  Sure, it would be nice to have some roots, but when you don’t really grow up with them (we moved a lot when I was growing up), putting down roots is scary to me, even if it’s just a house.

That’s not answer the question yet but just a bit of background on why this question is sort of hard to answer.  Of course, if it were easy, these questions wouldn’t exist to make you think about your life and the experiences and people who’ve passed through.

So home… Home is a place where my family is.  Not just the family I’ve married into, but my biological family.  Sure, I don’t see them as much as I should; someday I’m going to regret that.

Home is where things should be less stressful and serves as an escape from the stress of the day.  Lately, our stress has been at home because of us trying to make sure we are set for our next move.  There’s a few other stressors there too (funds mostly because I haven’t been Ubering in almost a month and things are tight).

Home is the arms of the people who can make the day fade away and can make anything feel possible.

Home is where the people in your heart are.  It’s where you get the answers to the hardest questions you never got to ask while they were around.

Home isn’t always about shelter, it’s about love and respect and trust and knowing there are people who love you enough to be there to help you pick up the broken pieces when you are failing at adulting and at life in general.

Home… is home.

What does home mean to you?

Happy Friday!

Listening to:  Amazon Music

Reading:  Harry Potter and the Chamber of Secrets by J.K. Rowling

Quote of the Day:  “The ache for home lives in all of us, the safe place where we can go as we are and not be questioned.” — Maya Angelou

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Race Day #2

I did it!

Saturday, I completed my second major race, the Baltimore 10-Miler.  It was a beautiful course through Druid Hill Park and then through JHU out to Lake Montebello and back.  Ten miles of officers and people being supportive and plenty of Gatorade and water.  It was awesome… until it wasn’t anymore.  I got to the finish with a broken blister on my right heel again, two rolled ankles, and cramps so bad in both legs.  Oh and my mid-upper back on fire.  Reasons?  I didn’t really train for this one.

Bmore 10 Miler

I finished though… in under the time limit with almost a minute faster pace than the Frederick Half.

Bmore 10 Miler medal

There would have been no way I would have done either of these last year.

So what’s the difference?

Surgery.

In December 2016, I had weight loss surgery.  I was sitting at 396 at this time last year (right picture).  Right now, I’m at 280/281 (left pic).

Comparison

This was not the easy way out.  There is a lot of work that went into getting the surgery.  I started the process a year ago this month in fact.  Every day is a struggle to get through all the fluids and all the protein that I need to intake just to keep going.  Hence the walking more, the getting out more, the doing more things, etc.

Last year, Maryland’s King Crab Challenge was just a thought on a piece of paper of things I wanted to do.  Now, thanks to the surgery and the support I have, it’s a reality this year.  My feet aren’t thanking me for it yet, but my esteem is.

Now to get my legs elevated so my ankle and heel can heal.  19 weeks and 5 days until Baltimore Run Fest!

Have a great week everyone.

Listening to:  Hamilton

Reading:  The Shack by Wm. Paul Young

Quote of the Day:  “Nothing stops the man who desires to achieve. Every obstacle is simply a course to develop his achievement muscle. It’s a strengthening of his powers of accomplishment.” ― Thomas Carlyle

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June’s Goals

Happy June!

Wow.  Just wow.  Can someone tell me where May went?  Sheesh.

This year is going so fast!

I completed two 1001 day goals:

I also complete one non-1001 days goal I thought was pretty neat.

Just because May went fast didn’t mean a lot of things didn’t happen.

  • Miles reached: 439.89 (18.11 miles to Rivendell!)
  • Weight lost: 11.4 lbs (Down to 281.6 from 293 on 5/1).
  • Books read: 26.  Several of these were graphic novels but yeah…
  • Blog Posts: 5
  • Went to Cross-Fit: 6
  • Started passport process
  • Saw Weezer and Fitz and the Tantrums in concert.
  • The three aforementioned goals.

June’s goals are fairly straight forward.

  • Reach 550+ miles.
  • Lose at least 16 more lbs.
  • 12 blog posts.
  • Finish reading five more books.
  • Finish and frame my cross-stitch project.
  • Do Cross-fit at least eight times this month.
  • Write 10,000 words on any story.
  • Build emergency fund back up.
  • Complete my second race in the King Crab Challenge
  • Go camping.
  • Start Half Marathon training again for October.

It’s going to be another exciting month with plenty to look forward to!

Listening to:  Three Doors Down

Reading:  The Killing Dance by Laurell K. Hamilton

Quote of the Day: “ People are not lazy. They simply have impotent goals – that is, goals that do not inspire them. ” ― Tony Robbins

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Summer Bucket Lists

I’ve had the song “Mad World” in my head for the last few days.  The last couple days have been a whirlwind of activities for just about everything.  It’s scary how things change and the things that set certain situations into motion.

I’ve been neglecting my blog, my workout routines, and just having a very blah attitude for the last six weeks.  It’s hard getting back into the groove of things after being in a down swing but here’s to trying.

Graduations are happening this week and next.  What better time to bring up summer bucket lists?

Ideas for Solo Travelers:

  • Explore your city as a Tourist.
  • Take a random road trip alone.
  • Get your passport.
  • Go camping and unplug.
  • Hike a mountain.
  • Go geocaching in your hometown.
  • Treat yourself to a spa day.
  • Go to a music festival and connect with people.
  • Skip rocks on a lake.
  • Try a fitness class at your local gym.

Ideas for Couples:

  • Explore your city as a tourist.
  • Start driving, using a coin to pick the directions.
  • Get your passports.
  • Go camping.
  • Hike a mountain.
  • Go geocaching in your hometown.
  • Try a fitness class at your local gym.
  • Explore your local farmer’s market.
  • Host a dinner party.
  • Plant a garden together.

Ideas for Families:

  • Explore your city as a Tourist.
  • Go camping and unplug.
  • Go geocaching in your hometown.
  • Skip rocks on a lake.
  • Take a family road trip.
  • Have standing Family Game nights.
  • Watch your local fireworks show together.
  • Go to a drive-in movie.
  • Clean out closets and host a yard sale.
  • Have a water balloon fight.

Ideas for Graduates:

  • Take a road trip with your best friend.
  • Go to the beach/senior week.
  • Watch your local fireworks show.
  • Go to a drive-in movie with friends.
  • Clean out closets and host a yard sale.
  • Have a water balloon fight before people leave for college.
  • Pick one thing you’ve never done/couldn’t do, and go do it.
  • Take a camping trip.
  • Do a solo road trip.
  • Read a book I’ve never read before.

Most of these I got off of Pinterest.  If you want more ideas, Pinterest and Google can provide great ideas or even starting points.  For road trip ideas, Pinterest and the Day Zero Project have things to do in each state.  Check it out and have a great summer!

Listening to:  people talking.

Reading:  The Killing Dance by Laurell K. Hamilton

Quote of the Day:  “Life is not easy for any of us. But what of that? We must have perseverance and above all confidence in ourselves. We must believe that we are gifted for something and that this thing must be attained.” ― Marie Curie

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Question Day

Happy Wednesday.

I’ve been going through my 101 list to see what I can complete, what I can start, and what things are going to need to have some steps added to them to get to that goal.

So today is question day:  #8: What stands between you and happiness?

When I asked this question a few years ago, there were a few answers folks had given me:  Pride, hopelessness, and negativity and negative thoughts.

For me, the answer to this question boils down as:  1) What makes me happy? and 2) What do I need to do to be able to do those things?

1) Simple things make me happy.  Spending time with my family even if we aren’t doing much.  Focusing on things like cross-stitch and writing makes me happy.  Reading someone else’s story makes me happy.

2) Time, patience, love and understanding that the first drafts don’t have to be perfect and that crafting beautiful things isn’t always a perfect process.

So what would happen if I had none of those things? What would happen if one day, my family and friends up and left me?  What would happen if one day, I didn’t have my hands to type with or my eyes to see with?  That’s the other questions my brain is asking myself.

If I had no family or friends, life would be lonely.  I’m a social person with co-dependency issues.  For those of you who don’t know what co-dependency is, it comes down to I focus on other people’s problems to avoid dealing with my own.  It can be very sad and I don’t have a whole jumble of problems, but I do have some that aren’t ones I want to focus on.

If I lost use of my hands, I’d cry for a very long time.  Without my hands, just about everything I love would be gone.  My eyes wouldn’t be as dire but life would still suck.  Would it be worth dying?  No.  Would it suck?  Hell yes.  This just means not taking things like that for granted. I have them but tomorrow I could easily not.

Oh right.  Answer the question!

Pride, guilt, blame, time, and a perfectionist mentality.  If I can’t do it perfectly the first, I don’t want to do it at all. It leads to many projects being restarted and thrown away and many things I want to do never started.

What stands between you and your happiness?

Listening to:  “The DaVinci Code” by Dan Brown

Reading:  Fables Volume 13 and “The DaVinci Code” by Dan Brown

Quote of the Day:  “Men go to far greater lengths to avoid what they fear than to obtain what they desire.”  ― Dan BrownThe Da Vinci Code

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Cooking Class

I’ve been trying all day to be positive.  I’ve been talking myself out of my anger at stupidity and blunt rudeness from people yesterday.  Long story, short:  Please just be polite to other people and know the point between when you get drunk and when you get stupid.  It doesn’t always take alcohol to enjoy a show.

Okay.  Moving on now.

Ray and I marked something off my bucket list Friday night:  Take a cooking class.

We’d been planning going to a vegetarian Indian cooking class since March.  I had found a couple places in Baltimore that had cooking classes.  The one we went to, the Baltimore Chef Shop (BSC), was one of the best cooking kitchens I’ve been in before.  We walked in and Chris was super friendly.  Then, when it came to cooking, Chef Fernando couldn’t have been more amazing.

And the food…  Just look at it!  Who wouldn’t want to eat that?

There were six people and between the six of us, we learned how to make very quick cheese for the paneer, how to make really good chana dahl, and how to cook Basmati rice without measuring.  Food was amazing.

Afterwards, we went home and fell into food comas.

I think that’s a Friday night done right.

The plus side is BSC has plenty of other kinds of cooking classes so if Indian isn’t your favorite cuisine, there’s Chinese, Thai, Spanish, Moroccan, Vietnamese, Korean, Mediterranean, even Dim Sum for parents and kids.  Check out their calendar for ideas for something different to do for a unique date night or just to learn a new skill.

Always keep improving!

Listening to:  Zac Brown Band’s “Jekyll + Hyde” CD

Reading:  Fables Volume 13

Quote of the Day:  “When it is obvious that the goals cannot be reached, don’t adjust the goals, adjust the action steps.” ― Confucius

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Bragging

Morning everyone.

Yesterday, I completed my first ever half marathon.

Finish

I really want to stop talking about it because I feel like I’m bragging about it.  I get that I should be proud of my accomplishment because not everyone has done a half-marathon before.  Maybe I’m just a little weird on this one and I don’t like bragging.

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A half-marathon is definitely not something I would have ever done before losing 100 lbs.  I had thought about it and had even put it on my Day Zero Someday list.  I signed up for the race in February when Crystal and I had been talking about it.  I reasoned that it would be a good goal and reward to myself for getting the surgery and for staying mostly on track.  With me, it’s go big or go home so I signed up for not only the Frederick Half that I completed yesterday, but also the Baltimore 10-Miler (June) and the Baltimore Half (October).  Completing all three runs puts me in the King Crab category of Maryland Races.

After that run, I’ll have gotten five medals this year and completed three in-person races, just in time for the Time-Turner event through the HRC.  In October, there is the chance to order the medals/register for the events we may have missed throughout the year.  There is only one medal I want from that one this year:  The Perfect Prefect!

So other than getting over the soreness I’m still experiencing from yesterday, I’m not doing too much right now.

Have a great week!

Listening to:  Amazon’s Long Weekend Rock playlist

Reading:  Fables Volume 10

Quote of the Day:  “Never quit. It is the easiest cop-out in the world. Set a goal and don’t quit until you attain it. When you do attain it, set another goal, and don’t quit until you reach it. Never quit.” ― Bear Bryant

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