Question Day

Happy Wednesday.

I’ve been going through my 101 list to see what I can complete, what I can start, and what things are going to need to have some steps added to them to get to that goal.

So today is question day:  #8: What stands between you and happiness?

When I asked this question a few years ago, there were a few answers folks had given me:  Pride, hopelessness, and negativity and negative thoughts.

For me, the answer to this question boils down as:  1) What makes me happy? and 2) What do I need to do to be able to do those things?

1) Simple things make me happy.  Spending time with my family even if we aren’t doing much.  Focusing on things like cross-stitch and writing makes me happy.  Reading someone else’s story makes me happy.

2) Time, patience, love and understanding that the first drafts don’t have to be perfect and that crafting beautiful things isn’t always a perfect process.

So what would happen if I had none of those things? What would happen if one day, my family and friends up and left me?  What would happen if one day, I didn’t have my hands to type with or my eyes to see with?  That’s the other questions my brain is asking myself.

If I had no family or friends, life would be lonely.  I’m a social person with co-dependency issues.  For those of you who don’t know what co-dependency is, it comes down to I focus on other people’s problems to avoid dealing with my own.  It can be very sad and I don’t have a whole jumble of problems, but I do have some that aren’t ones I want to focus on.

If I lost use of my hands, I’d cry for a very long time.  Without my hands, just about everything I love would be gone.  My eyes wouldn’t be as dire but life would still suck.  Would it be worth dying?  No.  Would it suck?  Hell yes.  This just means not taking things like that for granted. I have them but tomorrow I could easily not.

Oh right.  Answer the question!

Pride, guilt, blame, time, and a perfectionist mentality.  If I can’t do it perfectly the first, I don’t want to do it at all. It leads to many projects being restarted and thrown away and many things I want to do never started.

What stands between you and your happiness?

Listening to:  “The DaVinci Code” by Dan Brown

Reading:  Fables Volume 13 and “The DaVinci Code” by Dan Brown

Quote of the Day:  “Men go to far greater lengths to avoid what they fear than to obtain what they desire.”  ― Dan BrownThe Da Vinci Code

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Cooking Class

I’ve been trying all day to be positive.  I’ve been talking myself out of my anger at stupidity and blunt rudeness from people yesterday.  Long story, short:  Please just be polite to other people and know the point between when you get drunk and when you get stupid.  It doesn’t always take alcohol to enjoy a show.

Okay.  Moving on now.

Ray and I marked something off my bucket list Friday night:  Take a cooking class.

We’d been planning going to a vegetarian Indian cooking class since March.  I had found a couple places in Baltimore that had cooking classes.  The one we went to, the Baltimore Chef Shop (BSC), was one of the best cooking kitchens I’ve been in before.  We walked in and Chris was super friendly.  Then, when it came to cooking, Chef Fernando couldn’t have been more amazing.

And the food…  Just look at it!  Who wouldn’t want to eat that?

There were six people and between the six of us, we learned how to make very quick cheese for the paneer, how to make really good chana dahl, and how to cook Basmati rice without measuring.  Food was amazing.

Afterwards, we went home and fell into food comas.

I think that’s a Friday night done right.

The plus side is BSC has plenty of other kinds of cooking classes so if Indian isn’t your favorite cuisine, there’s Chinese, Thai, Spanish, Moroccan, Vietnamese, Korean, Mediterranean, even Dim Sum for parents and kids.  Check out their calendar for ideas for something different to do for a unique date night or just to learn a new skill.

Always keep improving!

Listening to:  Zac Brown Band’s “Jekyll + Hyde” CD

Reading:  Fables Volume 13

Quote of the Day:  “When it is obvious that the goals cannot be reached, don’t adjust the goals, adjust the action steps.” ― Confucius

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Bragging

Morning everyone.

Yesterday, I completed my first ever half marathon.

Finish

I really want to stop talking about it because I feel like I’m bragging about it.  I get that I should be proud of my accomplishment because not everyone has done a half-marathon before.  Maybe I’m just a little weird on this one and I don’t like bragging.

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A half-marathon is definitely not something I would have ever done before losing 100 lbs.  I had thought about it and had even put it on my Day Zero Someday list.  I signed up for the race in February when Crystal and I had been talking about it.  I reasoned that it would be a good goal and reward to myself for getting the surgery and for staying mostly on track.  With me, it’s go big or go home so I signed up for not only the Frederick Half that I completed yesterday, but also the Baltimore 10-Miler (June) and the Baltimore Half (October).  Completing all three runs puts me in the King Crab category of Maryland Races.

After that run, I’ll have gotten five medals this year and completed three in-person races, just in time for the Time-Turner event through the HRC.  In October, there is the chance to order the medals/register for the events we may have missed throughout the year.  There is only one medal I want from that one this year:  The Perfect Prefect!

So other than getting over the soreness I’m still experiencing from yesterday, I’m not doing too much right now.

Have a great week!

Listening to:  Amazon’s Long Weekend Rock playlist

Reading:  Fables Volume 10

Quote of the Day:  “Never quit. It is the easiest cop-out in the world. Set a goal and don’t quit until you attain it. When you do attain it, set another goal, and don’t quit until you reach it. Never quit.” ― Bear Bryant

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May’s Goals

Happy May!

Last week was a depressed week.  I did not want to do too much and I wasn’t sure what all I was going to do to make it through last week.  I didn’t exercise, I got really low miles, my Uber rides were kind of crappy, and I was just in an all-out funk.

Today is a new month though, so time to lace up the sneakers and get cracking.

I completed two 1001 day goals:

  • Reach 200 postcards both sent and collected. 

I also complete one non-1001 days goal I thought was pretty neat.

  • Participate in the Inaugural Quidditch Cup via Racery.  Ended up walking more than I thought I would for this one.  It was only intentional miles and it put me closer to the 350 mile mark.

Before I get started on May’s goals, I want to go over what I did in April.

  • Miles reached: 345.12 (112.88 miles to Rivendell!)  That’s also over 100 miles in month!
  • Weight lost: 10.4 lbs (Down to 293.0 from 303.4 on 4/1).  UNDER 300 LBS!
  • Books read: 9
  • Blog Posts: 6
  • Went to Cross-Fit: 5
  • Planned June’s vacation
  • Booked our first Timeshare Vacation to Mexico in October.
  • Scheduled Passport appointment.
  • Started working on a story and did some research into it.

So what’s May’s goals?

  • Reach 450+ miles.
  • Lose at least 15 more lbs.
  • 12 blog posts.
  • Finish reading five more books.
  • Finish and frame my cross-stitch project.
  • Start on the next story to finish.
  • Do Cross-fit at least eight times this month.
  • Write 10,000 words on any story.
  • Buy more stamps.  I’m going through these like crazy thanks to mailing postcards and birthday cards to my fellow HRC’ers.
  • Build emergency fund back up.
  • Complete a half-marathon.
  • Enjoy the cooking class!
  • Go to DC’s Kerfuffle (OMG, Weezer!!!)
  • Complete the Glacier National Park Racery Event (101.7 miles in 31 days).

It’s going to be an exciting month with plenty to look forward to!

Happy Beltane today too.

Listening to: Nothing yet.

Reading:  Sandman Vol. 3.

Quote of the Day: “Doubt is not the opposite of faith; it is one element of faith.” ― Paul Tillich

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Postcards and RAK…

This morning, I wasn’t in the best moods.  I knew I wanted to write this post and knew I needed to be in a better mindset to do that.  After a 2.1 mile walk to work from Union Station while listening to the Hamilton soundtrack, I think I’m ready.

Or so I thought, until I started typing.

Right now, this week is Week One in a two-week competition where 900 people on 12 teams of 75 each are “racing” along a 3,300+ mile stretch from Quebec to Florida.  It’s been a great race so far.  I’ve logged 12 miles for my team so far.  It’s not much for sure but those are intentional miles.

Along with this race, we were encouraged to still use Charity Miles to help out the charities themselves too.  If you have Charity Miles, this week is #ProjectReadathon.  Save the Children and Penguin Random House are hosting this project.  The best part:  Participation is free!  All that needed is downloading the Charity Miles app in either the Android or Apple store, creating an account, and then get walking!  Whether it’s around your office or on a run you have coming up this weekend, it’s all for great causes.

So what all does this have to do with postcards?

Monday, when I got home, I’d gotten a postcard from Great Britain in an envelope.  I’d actually gotten three postcards in my mailbox Monday and one last night from fellow Postcrossing members.  I’ve received postcards in envelopes before so this wasn’t new.  What was new was the letter that was sent along with the postcard.

This letter was from a young lady who had decided to do a Random Acts of Kindness (RAK) spree for April.  It was actually pretty cool.  I met a new person is the strangest way and I gained a new goal my Someday list.

There are plenty of ideas for RAK out there.  Volunteering can be random.  Helping someone with something small or big.  Writing an anonymous letter with a positive message and leaving it for random people.  Little things… and I got ideas of what to do with my time if we get furloughed on the 28th.

What will you do to make your world a little brighter today?

Listening to:  The Hamilton soundtrack.  The music is amazing.

Reading:  The Source by J.D. Horn

Quote of the Day:  “Deep down, I reckon the sweetest moment will come when it’s finally all over. When, at last, I know that I can stop fighting. Of course it’ll also be a little sad. The sweetest moments, y’know, always come with just a little sadness.” ― Evander Holyfield

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Question Day

Happy Post Easter Monday.

Today, I’m not sure what to write about.  I could write about the fact that I’m finally under 300 lbs (@ 297.6) for the first time since I was 16.  I could write about how my half marathon training is going and that I finally reached 300 miles for the year so far with 1717 to go before December 31 at 23:59.  But I’m not sure I want to write about those other than to say that I’ve reached those milestones like I just did.

Since I don’t have much to write about today, I think I’ll make it a question day:

#50: What’s the most valuable thing you own?

Materially, my computer and my flash drive hands down.  I can take losing almost everything else, but losing those two things would cause massive panic attacks.

Non-materially, there are two things that I value a lot:

Number one is the family I married into.  I don’t know where I would be without Ray and our kids, and her family.  Even with us going through our ups and downs right now with both of us having had weight-loss surgery, she’s part of the reason I’m doing really well right now.  She and our kids are the reasons I’m doing a lot of what I’m doing with the weight-loss, the walking, and the driving… because at the end of the day, I couldn’t see my life without them there.  I know that’s very sentimental but they are the best things in my life.

Number two is my friends.  Sure they drive me nuts sometimes.  Sometimes, they walk out of my life and I don’t know if they’re coming back or even if I want them back, and sometimes they carry more baggage than I do, but they’re my friends.  Most of them have graduated to being family and those that haven’t know why.  Either way, those are relationships I value. Do I own my friends? No, but I value them though.

 

What are some things that you value in your life right now?  Have you told them lately how you feel?

Enjoy your Monday!

Listening to:  Ed Sheeran’s Station on Amazon

Reading:  The Source by J.D. Horn

Quote of the Day:  “Whether one believes in a religion or not, and whether one believes in rebirth or not, there isn’t anyone who doesn’t appreciate kindness and compassion.” ― Dalai Lama

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Quotes

Today is going to be a quotes day.

Last time I did this project, I came up with 101 quotes that I found and liked.  Here are 11 quotes from that project.

“Stop acting as if life is a rehearsal. Live this day as if it were your last. The past is over and gone. The future is not guaranteed.” ― Wayne Dyer

“If you want to do really important things in life and big things in life, you can’t do anything by yourself. And your best teams are your friends and your siblings.” ― Deepak Chopra

 “Since our society equates happiness with youth, we often assume that sorrow, quiet desperation, and hopelessness go hand in hand with getting older. They don’t. Emotional pain or numbness are symptoms of living the wrong life, not a long life.” ― Martha Beck

“Our prime purpose in this life is to help others. And if you can’t help them, at least don’t hurt them.” ― Dalai Lama

“I cannot even imagine where I would be today were it not for that handful of friends who have given me a heart full of joy. Let’s face it, friends make life a lot more fun.” ― Charles R. Swindoll

 “I am suggesting that as we go through life, we ‘accentuate the positive.’ I am asking that we look a little deeper for the good, that we still our voices of insult and sarcasm, that we more generously compliment and endorse virtue and effort.” ― Gordon B. Hinckley

“There are amazingly wonderful people in all walks of life; some familiar to us and others not. Stretch yourself and really get to know people. People are in many ways one of our greatest treasures.” ― Bryant H. McGill

“Make space in your life for the things that matter, for family and friends, love and generosity, fun and joy. Without this, you will burn out in mid-career and wonder where your life went.” ― Jonathan Sacks

“You couldn’t relive your life, skipping the awful parts, without losing what made it worthwhile. You had to accept it as a whole–like the world, or the person you loved.” ― Stewart O’Nan

 “How would your life be different if… You walked away from gossip and verbal defamation? Let today be the day… You speak only the good you know of other people and encourage others to do the same.” ― Steve Maraboli

“Get correct views of life, and learn to see the world in its true light. It will enable you to live pleasantly, to do good, and, when summoned away, to leave without regret.” ― Robert E. Lee

Listening to:  GlittersandLasers’ Last Minute Haul

Reading:  Wolfsbane by Patricia Briggs

Quote of the Day:  Pick any of the ones above.

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